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Month: April 2018 (page 3 of 4)

That equal and opposite reaction

I’m a big believer that the laws of physics apply to everything in this universe.

I’m also slowly coming to terms with the idea that I may be, in fact, ambitious.

That I had to include so many qualifiers in that sentence speaks volumes about how I feel about it.

Anyway: physics.

For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.

Every ambition births industriousness.

The questions is whether that industriousness is creative or destructive.

If that industry can go toward the ambition, becomes a physical outlet for those hopes and dreams. Creative.

Or that industry can go against the ambition, causing it to flounder or become distracted or incoherent. Destructive.

I’m starting to believe that destruction will lead to self destruction.

Know thyself.

And then align thine actions with thine desires.

Feminists don’t talk about Christine de Pizan

(But then again, neither does anybody else.)

Christine de Pizan was an Italian lady raised and educated in the courts of France who partied through 1399 and who supported herself by writing as a widow with three small children. She is one of my heroes.

Tonight I found my copy of The Book of the City of Ladies, which was written in 1405, first translated and published in English in 1521, and pretty much forgotten about until the 1980s.

The Book of the City of Ladies is a defense of women from unfair accusations, written from a well-read, temperate woman’s perspective. It is a delight to read. This is a passage from the introduction, where we find Christine trying to reconcile other (male) authors’ opinions of women with her own observations and experience.

And so I relied more on the judgement of others than on what I myself felt and knew. I was so transfixed in this line of thinking for such a long time that  it seemed as if I were in a stupor. Like a gushing fountain, a series of authorities, whom I recalled one after another, came to mind, along with their opinions on this topic. And I finally decided that God formed a vile creature when He made a woman, and I wondered how such a worthy artisan could have deigned to make such an abominable work which, from what they say, is the vessel as well as the refuge and abode of every evil and vice. As I was thinking this, a great unhappiness and sadness welled up in my heart, for I detested myself and the entire feminine sex, as though we were monstrosities in nature. And in my lament I spoke these words:

“Oh, God, how can this be? For unless I stray from my faith, I must never doubt that Your infinite wisdom and most perfect goodness ever created anything which was not good. Did You yourself not create woman in a very special way and since that time did You not give her all those inclinations which it pleased You for her to have? And how could it be that You could go wrong in anything? Yet look at all these accusations which have been judged, decided, and concluded against women. I do not know how to understand this repugnance. If it is so, fair Lord God, that in fact so many abominations abound in the female sex, for You Yourself say that the testimony of two or three witnesses lends credence, why shall I not doubt that this is true? Alas, God, why did You not let em be born in the world as a man, so that all my inclinations would be to serve You better, and so that I would not stray in anything and would be as perfect as a man is said to be? But since Your kindness has not been extended to me, then forgive my negligence in Your service, most fair Lord God, and may it not displease You, for the servant who receives fewer gifts from his lord is less obliged in his service.” I spoke these words to God in my lament and a great deal more for a very long time in sad reflection, and in my folly I considered myself most unfortunate because God had made me inhabit a female body in this world.

I love this passage because who among the thinking ladies hasn’t had these thoughts at one time or another? Sometimes men are so convinced that they themselves are so perfect and women are so evil and tempting that it really can make you doubt your Maker.

But Christine continues:

So occupied with these painful thoughts, my head bowed in shame, my eyes filled with tears, leaning on the pommel of my chair’s armrest, I suddenly saw a ray of light fall on my lap, as though it were the sun. I shuddered then, as if wakened from sleep, for I was sitting in a shadow where the sun could not have shone at that hour. And as I lifted my head to see where this light was coming from, I saw three crowned ladies standing before me, and the splendor of their bright faces shone on me and throughout the entire room. Now no one would ask whether I was surprised, for my doors were shut and they had still entered. Fearing that some phantom had come to tempt me and filled with great fright, I made the Sign of the Cross on my forehead.

Then she who was the first of the three smiled and began to speak, “Dear daughter, do not be afraid, for we have not come here to harm or trouble you but to console you, for we have taken pity on your distress, and we have come to bring you out of the ignorance which so blinds your own intellect that you shun what you know for a certainty and believe what you do not know or see or recognize except by virtue of many strange opinions. You resemble the fool in the prank who was dressed in women’s clothes while he slept; because those who were making fun of him repeatedly told him he was a woman, he believed their false testimony more readily than the certainty of his own identity. Fair daughter, have you lost all sense? Have you forgotten that when fine gold is tested in the furnace, it does not change or vary in strength but becomes purer the more it is hammered and handled in different ways? Do you not know that the best things are the most debated and the most discussed?

The ladies – Reason, Rectitude, and Justice – then go on to deliver to Christine arguments and examples of badass ladies through history, everyone from random unknown Saints to Minerva to Seneca’s wife Pompeia Paulina. All these ladies are, of course, citizens of the City.

I love how many medieval works of this period follow the “dream vision” format. I don’t believe that this work is one of them, because it’s more like a long-form conversation than a proper dream vision (like Piers Plowman, for example, where he literally falls asleep and dreams), but I love how non-modern writers were more imaginative with their writing.

The Book of the City of Ladies is a long-form conversation.

Drop everything and watch TWICE’s new video

Today has not been the greatest day on the MAGA-news front, on the — you know what? I won’t even make a list. In three months someone might find this post and not care about whatever things are worrisome today (if that’s you, hi!). That’s okay, because three-months-from-now reader will have yet another set of problems.

Problems never stop.

To counter this fact, I henceforth decree that you stop what you are doing and watch Twice’s music video, “What is Love?” If you focus on it, your troubles will disappear for 3:44, I promise.

Listening to Twice is like having a pocket-sized cheerleading squad that you can pull out at any moment to cheer you up. Their songs are always encouraging, never take themselves too seriously, and are guaranteed to put you in a better mood.

(Even if you’re one of those people who can’t listen to a song unless you’re in the mood for it, like me. You can’t deny the power of Twice.)

This video is a great one, too, because it showcases the gorgeous cinematography and personality-driven “plots” that are hallmarks of Twice MVs, but plugs in some nostalgia and cheeky irreverence.

Dahyun and Jungyeon are the winners of this MV, in my view. (Nevermind that I’m biased.)

Seriously. Even if you don’t love bubble-gum pop, give it a go.

Not everybody thinks like you

This is something I had to point out to someone today: not everybody thinks in the same way that you do.

And I don’t mean that in a superficial way. Of course people have differing opinions, favor different types of music or art, and have different life experiences and goals than you do. Most of us learn this lesson very early in life.

What I mean is that not everybody processes information in the same way that you do, not everybody uses the same mental-shortcuts, and not everybody values the same types of evidence as you.

So somebody’s thought process might look like a “deficient version of X” when it’s really a “real and true version of Y.”

It took me a long time to learn this lesson so I’m hoping to pass on what I’ve learned.

Preamble: About the MBTI

I find the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) an extremely useful tool, when used carefully. Whether or not it’s been approved by Peer Reviewed Science ™ is secondary to whether or not it works, in my opinion. And so far, it hasn’t steered me wrong.

It can be used as a psychometrics-flavored astrology chart, as with 16 Personalities.com. That site has a decent test, but the descriptions are built to flatter. You need something strong like the MBTI Asshole Index to counterbalance the saccharine flattery.

There are other sites, like Human Metrics, that are much more thoughtful in presentation and lay out a lot of what I’m about to gloss over.

As a brief overview: the MBTI is based on Jungian thought, and divides human cognitive functions into four binary pairs: Introversion/Extraversion (I/E), Sensing/Intuition (S/N), Thinking/Feeling (T/F), and Perceiving/Judging (P/J). Through a self-inventory (or reverse engineering, if you’re typing someone else), you can identify yourself on the sliding scale between each of the poles. That creates 16 different personality “types,” which have their own strengths and weaknesses.

That’s the first layer.

The second layer is how those preferences work together in concert to describe your preferred functions, or the manner in which you interact with and “process” the world. That means that one of the main functions – Sensing, Intuition, Thinking, Feeling – is our prominent mode of interacting with the world. The other functions – Introversion, Extraversion, Perceiving, Judging – do more to describe which of the primary functions we prefer.

I’m not an expert on this stuff, by any means, but it’s the second layer that is the most useful thing to me.

First, it explains why some people are really easy to get to know, have no filter, and say (out loud) everything that’s on their mind or that they see and want to make note of; other people, meanwhile, are very difficult to get to know, often change their minds after a bit, and hide surprising things in their personalities that you might not discover until you know them for a very long time.

This is the difference between a person whose primary preferred function is also extraverted, and a person whose primary preferred function is introverted – this person interacts with the world through their secondary preferred function. There’s an extra layer to get through.

Second, the “order of functions” makes it easy to understand why some people value certain types of evidence and arguments, and others don’t consider evidence and arguments to be real if there’s no emotional content to back them up. It explains kinesthetic learners, and why INTJ-type people are so inflexible to talk to sometimes.

Here’s an example: my mother is an ESFJ and I am an INTP. Complete opposites.

For ESFJ, the order of preferred functions goes like this:

  • Primary Extraverted Feeling
  • Secondary Introverted Sensing
  • Tertiary Extraverted Intuition
  • Inferior Introverted Thinking

That means that my mother’s main method of interacting with the world is through the emotional landscape. She’s “always feeling.” Emotional harmony is important to her, and she will “process” how she feels about things by talking about them out loud.

For INTP, the order is this:

  • Primary Introverted Thinking
  • Secondary Extraverted Intuition
  • Tertiary Introverted Sensing
  • Inferior Extraverted Feeling

So for me, I’m always thinking. But even though T is primary, it’s also introverted, directed inward. I still need a way to interact with the outside world, for which I call upon my intuition. Luckily for me and my mom, extraverted N and extraverted F look similar and play well together.

I am much less concerned with emotional harmony and much more concerned with thinking things through, and therefore “withdraw” somewhat, since all my thinking is happening internally.

Okay, all that theory is great. What does that mean in real life?

Well, friend, let’s continue with my personal example.

For a long time, I couldn’t figure out why I am so bad at emotions. Bad at identifying them, bad at sorting them through, bad at communicating what I was feeling to myself and to other people.

Here’s the reason: Feeling is my inferior function. I have to do much more work in that arena, my weakness, than I do in my strengths – T and N. (I hate processing emotions because it’s so difficult.)

But that’s just me. There are many other personality types, each with its own inferior function.

Some people hate feeling, because it’s hard. Some people hate dealing with sense evidence, because it’s hard. Some people hate recognizing patterns, because it’s hard. Some people hate thinking, because it’s hard.

And that, my friend, is the thing that is the most useful part about the MBTI. It’s simply a framework to help explicate that other people’s mental models aren’t the same as yours:

  • What comes naturally to you, or to me, may not come naturally to someone else.
  • Arguments or evidence or rhetoric that may convince you or me may not convince someone else.
  • The best way to communicate with you or me may not be the best way to communicate with someone else.

More examples:

My boss is, as far as I can tell, is an Introverted Feeling person who communicates with Extraverted Intuition. The N is probably why we can get along pretty well, but I have to remind myself to communicate through emotional arguments, not logical ones, if I am to “speak his language.” And that I should not be surprised when an answer changes after my boss has had time alone with his feelings, which are not going to make logical sense – because Thinking is the inferior function for these types of people.

A friend is INTJ: Extraverted Thinking with Introverted Intuition. This can be a difficult type to work with, because all her Thinking is projected out into the world. Sometimes I feel like I have to dodge and parry through the Thinking to get through to the Intuition so I can make a point.

With an extraverted person, it typically helps to get it all out there, and leave nothing to speculation or inference. Personally, I hate to state the obviously, but what is obvious to me is not always obvious to other people – especially people whose Primary Function is also their Extraverted function. They are Extraverts and they tend to live outside of themselves, rather than inside of themselves.

The Method

When I meet someone new that I need to influence in some way, I size them up, so to speak. Do they seem to process externally or internally? Are they more impacted by physical evidence and facts, or by general theories and inferences? Do they respond to logic, or are the always talking about how they feel about something? Are they typically receptive to new ideas or do they have a judgement for how the world works?

This gives me a rough idea of where their preferences lie, and then I can try out different types of argument and persuasion until I find one that works the best.

This also gives me an idea of whether I should start out with some small talk, or if they’re the kind of person that likes to get right down to business.

In situations where I can’t figure someone out and it matters immensely that I can communicate with that person (such as my boss), I may sit down and reverse engineer the specific type. It will not be 100% accurate, but it’s enough that I can better anticipate what may come down the pipeline.

I don’t sit around and try to type every person I meet (that would be a waste of time), but I try to listen to what people tell me – in their words and actions both – about how they prefer to interact with the world.

This practice helps me be a better communicator on an individual level, but also understand when they make drastically different decisions than I would have made given the same information and circumstances. This makes the outside world a tiny bit more predictable.

As a person who relies heavily on Extraverted Intuition, this approach works for me. It may not work for you. 😉

 


Before you leave, there are a few things you need to keep in mind:

  1. MBTI scales are a preference, not immutable law
  2. Most people’s preferences will change or morph under stress
  3. This is only one filter through which to understand people, so it is understandably imperfect
  4. People are people, and no one person is 100% anything (except, ideally, their own self)

The Reader (revisited)

Hello, it’s that time to post all the tabs open in my browser that are silently mocking me for not yet reading them! [Insert something about the Protestant work ethic here.]

 

Read

How I Became an Artist & A Quick Beginner’s Guide to Drawing

The Blockchain Man

Morality, Compassion, and the “Sociopath” (part of a series)

Blockchain is not only crappy technology but a bad vision for the future

 

Unread

Tchaikovsky on Work Ethic vs Inspiration (via Brainpickings)

Mental Models (aka training for one’s intuition?)

Live Not By Lies (the famous essay)

Academia’s Consilience Crisis

Live Not By Lies (a blog post responding to a book on genetics)

 

Video

Openness: Creativity and Intelligence

This is not Clown World

 

Other stuff

Carlo Gesualdo (I hear his madrigals are sublime)

Lucid Mattress (via Cernovich)

My Pillow (via /r/the_donald)

Global IQ

Expectation vs reality

Man, you guys, I went down a rabbit hole tonight. It was a new kind of filter of how to view organizational dynamics. Super exciting (for us nerds). I was excited to share it here, and was prepping a post in real time with passages that struck me as particularly helpful.

You can probably tell by now, but this is not that post.

The idea that I was chasing so excitedly started wobbling at the end and went off the rails at the end, straight on over the cliffs of nihilism.

It is very difficult to swim back to shore after going off those cliffs (you lose your breath from the long fall and the water is deadly cold) so I really can’t share without first combing over where things started to go wrong. (It was probably when the author took a limited, situational analysis of people in workplace roles and tried to expand it to classes of people in general.)

I might share more later, because I think the original heuristic will be helpful, once you divest it of its fake cosmic significance.

Image of the Week: Everything is appalling edition

I am appalled. I will continue being appalled. This week has reveled some truly horrific behavior. You’d think by now I would understand that most of the time humans are fallen, cowardly, and stupid.

Despite this meme’s insistence on conflating the “alt-rieich” branch of the alt-right with the rest of us (that’s okay, pretty much everyone does), it’s pretty ding dang dong correct.

I lost interest in that faction of the alt-right when most of its podcast hosts blithely declared that they would be democrats if we lived in an all-white society. Basically they wanted to live in pre-migration Sweden. Let’s ignore the fact that the people in pre-migration Sweden were the ones who let in the migrants.

Many of these same people insist on reacting like emotional teenage girls when they’re criticized by anyone on the actual right.

And then, of course, the alt-right’s favorite candidate for congress doxxed one of the most influential meme figures of the Great Meme Wars (RIP Ricky Vaughn).

It’s weeks like these that we’re reminded that there’s left and fake-right in the mainstream of every movement. Just like the democrats and republicans are really two different flavors of the same ruling party, you got your communists and your neo-nazi flavors of the “new right.”

And then there are the rest of us who actually believe in individual liberty, and with it, responsibility.

Most people don’t understand this. It’s why (I believe) that the voting franchise was so limited at first.

There is a very small minority of people who care about doing things right. The rest just go through the motions.

A Semi-Comprehensive Review of Benefit BAD GAL BANG

Mascara. Gotta love it, because it’s one of those products that instantly makes you look (and feel) more put together.

But as someone who will get an eye infection at the drop of a hat, I have to be very very very careful about what I put on my eyes. Fiber mascara is out, as is most volumizing mascara. I’ve even had trouble with eye creams and cream eyeshadows.

Through a trial-and-error process, I’ve figured out that any starch- or grain-related ingredient is highly problematic. That stuff feeds the bacteria on your skin.

So Clinque – a mascara that specifically brands itself as gentle – is out. Funny, that.

Fortunately, Benefit Cosmetics exists. Specifically Bad Gal, Bad Gal Bang, and Roller Lash.

Benefit’s mascaras are all formulated without rice or wheat products, and I have yet to have an issue with any of them. There’s also the bonus that Benefit sells most of its mascaras in travel size, which I prefer over normal size. This means that my mascara runs out or dries up before it has a chance to get contaminated from bacteria.

Roller Lash

This mascara is no joke. It will seriously curl your lashes. It is blacker than tarnation. You look like you’re wearing MASCARA. It’s really easy to build up a spidery/clumpy look, if you’re into that. And I really like the wand – a curved, rubberized jobber that’s really handy for sculpting your magically curled lashes.

This is the mascara that I’ll wear for special occasions, because in addition to all of the above, it’s 100% budge-proof. You can’t cry it off, sweat it off, or rub it off. It will not transfer when you’re applying it, or when you’re doing anything else.

Of course, that is also its biggest drawback: removal. You need some serious heavy-duty eye makeup remover for this one, plus a little elbow grease. To be honest, that’s why I stopped using it on a daily basis, because I was worried that I’d irritate my eyes trying to remove it!

That said, I still keep a tube around for nights out or occasions when I know I’ll shed a tear or two.

Bad Gal Lash

I picked up this mascara on recommendation from one of the girls at Ulta, and I’m still not totally sure how I feel about it. Bad Gal is the complete opposite of Roller Lash.

It will not curl your lashes, or even hold a curl if you use a lash curler beforehand. Sometimes it is difficult to tell if your lashes are blacker or not after you apply it. The wand is thick like a caterpillar, almost like you’re paint-rolling on the mascara instead of coating each individual lash. And it gets everywhere. I have to wipe up my eyelid area after applying (good thing I don’t wear eyeshadow) and by the end of the day there’s about an 85% chance that I have mascara smeared all over my eyelid. It’s not pretty.

On the plus side, it washes off easily with cleanser and water. (I use Glossier Milky Jelly cleanser which is gentle enough that I can use it on my eyes.)

I was using this one everyday for a couple months, and while it was fine – and certainly met my needs for washing off completely – I never really felt like I was wearing mascara. Coupled with the fact that I was wearing mascara to the tune of panda eyes by 5pm, that’s like a worst of both worlds situation.

If only there was a mascara that hit a happy medium in between the stubborn statement of Roller Lash and the subtle non-commitment of Bad Gal….

Bad Gal Bang

Enter Bad Gal Bang. It is, I’m happy to report, a happy medium between Roller and Bad Gal. The perfect mascara, perhaps? (No, not really.)

Bad Gal Bang really is like a hyped up version of Bad Gal, or like a toned down version of Roller Lash. The brush is rubberized, making it easy to coat each lash, although this one is very flexible and tapered. It definitely looks like you’re wearing mascara, and you can go pretty subtle with it, or build it up for some serious spider lashes. And at the end of the day, it washes off with cleanser (mostly). The rest wipes up really easily with a q-tip.

Now the downsides. Like Bad Gal, it tends to get messy when you apply it. This can be mitigated if you blot the brush on a tissue before putting it on your eye, but I still have to clean up after myself. However, that’s just a little problem. The big problem: it flakes.

I’m not sure if flakes are better than smears – although they certainly are easier to brush away – especially when they don’t wait for the end of the day and instead start at 10am.

Regardless, this is still my favorite mascara at the moment. It does everything I want it to do, has a brush that I enjoy using, and doesn’t irritate my eyes.

 


If your eyes get easily irritated and/or you’ve ever had to throw away all of your eye makeup because of an eye infection, here are my best tips:

  • Avoid mascaras with wheat, rice, starch, or bran ingredients (these are often added to help volumize) (same goes for eye creams and eyeshadow)
  • Also avoid fiber mascaras (use false lashes if you want to boost things)
  • Buy travel sized, so it’s less money wasted if the mascara ends up freaking your eyes out, and it’ll keep you honest about swapping out your mascara quickly
  • Always always always remove your mascara before you sleep at night (no residue!)

Knowing when to stop

There I was, in the middle of half-assedly collecting data for an infographic post. Intent on making this huge point about college enrollment and IQ, I was scrolling through images, looking for the most visually effective depiction of the IQ bell curve. After seeing two nearly identical graphs labeled both 1930 and 1990, I thought to myself “Wait, what are you doing?”

There’s nothing quite like a data binge, is there? (Hah.)

Rewind 8 hours, and I was reading about the history of universities in America. Did you know that just 2% of the population went to college in the 1700s? Given the size of the population, that was not a lot of people.

I had been ruminating on this point, as I’ve been trying to identify what precisely has gone wrong with the university system. (Spoiler: it’s probably a lot of things.)

One of those things is, I believe, a shift away from a university/college education being a boutique thing for a very small proportion of people into something that is expected and necessary for a very large proportion of people.

Something that could impact this is IQ, and how IQ differences over time would impact the preferences and aptitudes of the student and faculty bodies of colleges.

Another thing that could impact this is probably going to be addressed in Taleb’s Skin in the Game, but I haven’t gotten to that chapter yet. Something about how things can’t scale up as easily as we’d like them to.

The point is, I don’t know much about either of those points yet. If I don’t know, how could I possibly expect to apply them to new knowledge and get something useful out of it?

IQ is one of those measures that is heavily based on statistics, and I am not fluent in statistics at this time.

And obviously I can’t apply lessons that I haven’t even read yet.

So I stopped looking for infographics.

could have forged ahead and written a post anyway. In the past, in one of my old defunct blogs, I would have done that very thing. It would have been ok, probably. I’m sure someone, somewhere, would have agreed with it.

But would it have been good? Would it have been true?

No.

One of the things that I’ve been challenging myself to do on this blog is to tell the truth as I see it. I can’t claim to have the whole truth, but I am doing my best to look for it. Part of living out this ideal is identifying when I don’t, in fact, have the whole truth – like right now.

Chill out. There’s plenty of time to get the facts and the rhetoric straight before you go charging into anything rash.

There are plenty of times that you’ll make yourself look like a fool without doing it on purpose.

So let it go.

Why I’m excited for the new EXO-CBX album

Guys, EXO-CBX is coming back. Soon. Yay!

For those of you who find my blog through other means than K-pop, sometimes groups that have many members will release an album (or video or mini-album) with a smaller subset of members. This is called a subunit. Because these subunits are typically members who work well together both musically and in personality, these subunits are often more defined and pronounced in mood and concept.

EXO-CBX is one of these subunits. EXO as a whole is currently 9 members, with 8 actively promoting in Korea. (One member, Lay, is promoting in China.) As one of the biggest k-pop groups promoting today, EXO’s music (moreso their title tracks – the ones with music videos) tends to be very “classic.” [Edit: Lies! I just remembered that Wolf exists.] Even when the concept pushes boundaries – like Kokobop’s reggae-influenced drug fantasy – the concept has to be big enough to fit every member’s style and personality, from Suho the Rich Dad to Chanyeol the Creative Dork.

But herein lies the brilliance of CBX. As the three-letter acronym might suggest, CBX consists of 3 members:

  • Chen, a superb vocalist and lyricist
  • Baekhyun, another fantastic vocalist
  • Xiumin, arguably one of the better dancers in the group and, as we discovered on EXO-CBX’s first mini-album, a pretty good rapper with a unique voice

All three are positive, goofy people who can handle a “cute” image well. Chen and Xiumin border on cartoon-character levels of caricaturability, and  Baekhyun is a complete chameleon when it comes to looks. They make a very good team that, while vocal-centric (not that anyone is disappointed with that), is quite balanced in terms of talent.

And – this is the part I like – their releases tend to mirror their personalities in being upbeat and a little bit funky.

I will not lie, I had their first mini-album, “Hey Mama!“, permanently on repeat in my car for entire month of November and again in February. You can’t not be in a better mood after listening to them sing at you, especially with SM’s fantastic musical arrangements in the background. SM is really great at funk-type music and sometimes they get a bass line going real good. I like that.

Anyway, EXO-CBX is in the teaser stage for their next comeback. If the music sounds anything like how the teasers look, this will be the perfect spring album.

I think we all need more fun in our lives.

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